Growing up, most of us heard the Fairy Tales that are usually read to children and we learned a lot from them. We learned to fear the big bad wolf, and to “stay on the path”. We learned not to go into the homes of strangers and eat their porridge or test their beds. We learned not to cry wolf, not to eat apples given to us by strangers, and we came to know that beauty lies within. We were taught to believe in magic!
But there was one thing we may have absorbed from fairy tales that may not have served us so well. We came to believe in the possibility of “happily ever after”. The prince wakes the soon-to-be-princess with a kiss, the glass slipper fits, the frog turns back into a prince and the beast becomes a prince – you know the drill. They unite and they live happily ever after.
Except life doesn’t stop at the moment when they reveal their love. The fairy tale ends, but the story goes on. After that comes – you know – more life! Yet the fairy tales have conditioned us, when we were children, to believe everything flows smoothly from then on, never telling you what happens in the “ever after”.
The Happy Place, my book, is the story of what I learned about taking responsibility for my own happiness. It tells how I fought some of my dragons and it outlines how you can use the tool I discovered when you find yourself facing dragons in your life.
Do you believe in “happily ever after”? What have you learned about happiness thus far on your journey?
photo credit: Dan Catchpole