Are You Trying to Change Your Life?

Are You Trying to Change Your Life?

It struck me as I was hanging out in the Blogosphere that you and I may have a bit of a – well, dare I say… problem? There is a theme running through so many posts that I’ve been reading lately. Do you see it? We’re all trying so hard to change our lives or change ourselves or change our careers. And as if that’s not enough, we’re trying to help other people to do the same.

What if we all just took a pause and looked around our lives and said,

“Meh! It’s fine the way it is.”

I read a post recently where the author decided to choose a mantra to guide her in 2013. I love this idea. Her mantra was “Do it for love”. I have been wondering what my mantra would be since I read Alice’s post. I think I have it now: “Accept it.”

Can you feel that? It’s the feeling of sinking down onto a feather bed and resting your head on an overstuffed down pillow. It’s the feeling of falling down onto the grass on the other side of the finish line after a long sprint at the end of a long distance run. It’s the feeling of peace.

Maybe it’s just me. For as long as I can remember I’ve been trying to figure out life but when did figuring out life become changing life and when did that come to mean that I must be something different from what I am?

I’m not advocating laziness, or sloth. I’m just wondering: why isn’t “now” good enough? And if it’s not good enough now, will it ever be good enough? When is the last time you said, “Enough! I’m good enough, my life is good enough, my career is good enough the way it is?” It’s alright to say that; you can always work on changing things tomorrow.

I choose (to try) to accept it because “it” is what is.

What would your mantra be? How do you achieve the balance between a desire to make progress on the journey and a decision to be grateful for where you are?  Are you trying to change your life?

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About The Author


I am passionate about writing and community building. I’ve written a book about healing and happiness, The Happy Place, as well as a Community Building book, Sounding the Drum: Community Building in the Digital Age, now available at any Amazon store. I’ve been through life changes that I thought were the end of my world, but I’m still here. I never know what will happen next. Isn’t that what makes life interesting?