Dear LFI, How Do I Deal with Getting Older in a World That Values Youth?
This is the second post in the Dear LFI series where we converge here on the porch to answer specific, personal, life-issue questions posed by anonymous contributors. Will you offer your thoughts on this issue?
On a good day I see no reason to act my age because I have a zest for life and many interests. I feel fulfilled. But on a bad day I look in the mirror and see a very old person whose zest for life is fading, whose ego is taking over. I find myself wallowing in self-pity.
Life seems less than fair and much more challenging to an older person.
How will I find a job if I lose this one? How will I continue to finance my pension? I want to have a partner again. I want to have fun. I want all the things a young person has; all which seem much less available to an older person. I should be enjoying life and reaping the harvest, instead, I feel as if I’m fighting an endless battle. I feel as if I am losing my voice
While my children lived home I was uplifted by their youth and energy. But now I am surrounded by old people, my time over-filled with care-giving. Even my dog is getting on in years; her signs of ageing reminding me of mine.
My days seem filled with tasks but not with joy. I feel old and useless in a world which values youth. How do I deal with this?
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